Loss Letters

A personalised grief letter to support you through grief - written for you; to honour how you feel, to honour your loss, to honour your love + support your becoming.

A one-to-one offering by Hayley Frances

Sometimes, when someone dies or something ends, we need something real to hold. Not advice. Not more to read. Just something that speaks back to what’s happening inside.

That’s what this is.

You tell me what’s going on. I listen. Then I write you a letter.

That’s it. No big book. Not an overwhelming expectations. Not a performance. Not a fix. Just a letter — written slowly, honestly, with care — that meets you where you are in your grief.

What it is

This is a personalised grief letter written just for you, or someone you love. It’s shaped by the story you share — what you’ve lost, what you’re holding, what you wish you could say or hear. I take that in, sit with it, and then write something that speaks to it. Something that might help you feel less alone.

You might be grieving the death of someone close. You might be holding onto something unresolved. You might just want someone to listen, guide and speak back without trying to fix anything.

What you’ll receive.

This is active grief tending — through language, memory, and a written exchange that invites you to speak, write, and return to what matters.

  • A personalised grief letter written from your story (PDF format)

  • A short ceremony guide to help you create space for the letter

  • A carefully chosen poem (or more than one), sourced specifically to speak to your experience

  • A short, original poem written within the letter, shaped by what you've shared

  • Gentle, guided writing prompts based on your story and grief

  • The option to add a printed version, hand-finished and posted to you

  • The chance to book a one-to-one session to deepen the process if you wish

How it works.

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    1. You fill in a short form
    Tell me who the grief letter is for, what happened, + what’s important for me to know. Say what you can — it doesn’t have to be perfect.

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    2. I write your letter
    I give it time. I read what you’ve shared, feel into it, and write something that’s meant to meet you in it. It’s not formulaic. It’s a conversation.

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    3. You receive it
    Within 7 days, you’ll receive your grief letter as a digital PDF. You can print it, keep it, return to it, or include it in your own rituals.

order your grief letter

Whose it’s for.

  1. Anyone grieving someone they’ve lost

  2. Anyone holding pain, shame, or confusion around a relationship

  3. Anyone needing to feel seen in their grief or something they can’t find words for

  4. You, if you read this far and something in you said “yes” reading this

Investment

Grief Letter *digital
£111

A personalised letter written from your story and grief, delivered as a digital PDF you can read, print, or return to whenever you need it.

Grief Letter *hand finished
£144

A hand-finished printed copy of your letter, wrapped simply and posted to you. Something you can hold, keep, or place on an altar or in a private space.

Optional Support

If something opens and you want to keep going, I offer one-to-one grief tending.
You can book these after you’ve received your letter. No pressure.

Grief Tending Session (online)

Online, 60 mins — £88
A soft, grounded space to talk, cry, or be witnessed in whatever’s there.

Ceremonial Reading of the Letter (Online or In Person)

Online or in person, 90 mins — £111
We meet. You read your letter, or I read it for you. We make space for what rises.

This isn’t something I mass produce. It’s slow, personal, and done with care. I write every letter myself. I give it time. What you share is held with respect.

Grief is strange and hard. You don’t need to explain it all to be held in it. You’re not too much. You’re not too late. You’re not broken.

If you want something that meets you where you are, I’d be honoured to write it.

✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

  • Yes. You don’t have to write loads. Just share what you can. A name, a feeling, a sentence. I work with whatever you’re able to give.

  • No. I’m not a therapist. This is not clinical support. It’s a grief-informed writing practice — a one-to-one exchange of language, care, and attention.

  • Yes. If you're supporting someone you love, you’re welcome to order on their behalf. Just let me know what feels important to include.

  • That’s completely valid. Grief shows up in many forms — breakups, estrangement, illness, life shifts. You’re welcome here.

  • You’ll receive it by email as a PDF. If you choose the printed version, I’ll also post a hand-finished copy to you.

  • Within 7 days. I write every letter personally and give each one the time it needs.

Why a grief letter?

Because grief needs a place to land.
Because words are a bridge between life + loss.
Because we are not meant to grieve alone.

These letters are sacred objects.
They are not quick, and they are not casual.

They are a pause. A soft rebellion.
A small altar in an envelope.